Understanding intimacy through the lens of attachment If love feels confusing or painful right now, you’re not broken. And neither is your relationship. Sometimes what couples experience as a sexual problem is actually something much deeper: a disruption in the attachment bond. As a couples therapist, I often sit with partners who arrive believing the central issue in their relationship is sex. The frequency of it. The absence of it. The rejection surrounding it. But when we slow things down...

How family of origin wounds and past relationships quietly shape the way we love If love feels confusing or painful right now, you’re not broken. And neither is your relationship. Very often, the conflict couples experience in their relationship is not only about what is happening between them today. It’s also about what happened long before they met. Because every person walks into a relationship carrying an invisible history — a collection of attachment experiences, emotional injuries, and...

Most relationships don’t implode overnight.They fracture when safety quietly turns into threat. And the most destabilising wounds in love aren’t always loud. They’re the ones that make your nervous system whisper: I’m not safe anymore. If love feels confusing or painful right now… you’re not broken.And neither is your relationship. But something may be wounded. Let’s slow this down together. This is Part 2 of our conversation about attachment wounds. In Part 1, we explored the more common...